with Lorraine Manners, Intuitive

Restoring Balance

It’s the New Year and the holidays have left you wrung out and even more stressed than usual. You have no time for a breather as life is speeding up rather than slowing down.

The demands placed on us in our technology-advanced age are enormous.

Whatever we are juggling – family, career, friends, volunteer work – we are expected to be connected practically 24/7 and to respond to everyone immediately. And to have answers then and there. In the age of Google, no one seems to have the patience anymore to wait for anything.

We’re being stretched in a million directions. No wonder we rarely feel calm, peaceful and balanced.

 When Opting Out isn’t an Option

We have families, jobs, financial obligations and other commitments, which means we can’t suddenly become hermits to get away from it all.

Try These 3 Tips

  1. Declutter Your Mind

When we talk about hoarders, we automatically think of people who collect crap in their homes. We never consider all the junk we collect in our minds. I bet there is a lot of stuff in your mind that you don’t need to hold onto. To-do lists. Cringe-inducing memories. Grievances against colleagues/family members/friends/fill-in-the-blank.

To-do lists are the easiest to deal with. Write it down. Once it’s recorded, you don’t need remember it. Et voila! Less clutter in your mind. (I would suggest keeping one to-do list – less stressful than trying to keep track of multiple lists)

As for the bad memories and resentments that have built up – burn them! Not literally. I don’t mean set fire to your head. 😉

Write them down on paper and then burn them. Put in all the emotion you are feeling – don’t hold back. Then watch it go up flames. You won’t believe how cathartic this is.

Think of this as spring-cleaning for your peace of mind.


  1. Step Back and Look At the Bigger Picture

 In those moments of stress or worry or rage, take a deep breath and take a mental step back. Then ask yourself, “Is it really that big a deal? Is this life-altering?”

For example, you’re rushing to work because you have a meeting. You are stressed because the traffic/subway/bus isn’t moving and you are going to be late.

Your blood pressure rises and your anger builds and your mood gets blacker.

Been there myself. Not a comfortable feeling. Certainly the opposite of calm and relaxed.

I’ve learned to ask myself, “In the grand scheme of things, is it really a big deal if I’m late? How important is this to my life overall?”.

It doesn’t have to be about being late; it can be about mostly anything. Stepping back and looking at the situation from a broader perspective usually helps to reduce stress and worry and bring you back to calmness.


  1. Unplug

We’ve all heard this. It’s probably the hardest thing for us to do. We all like being connected to our family, friends and community.  We don’t want to miss a thing.

But there is a reason unplugging is touted by many. It makes a huge difference to achieving a little more balance in your life.

Start small. Turn off your phones and devices for a short time and do something that brings you enjoyment or peace. Whether it’s with others (dining with friends, playing with your kids) or solitary (taking a walk or meditating), it doesn’t matter.

Doing something you really enjoy with others puts you wholly in the moment, leaving no room to worry about anything else. A solitary activity gives you time alone with your thoughts, with no distractions, and allows you to reconnect with yourself. Both types of activities center you. And you won’t miss much. That text will wait.

These aren’t earth-shattering tricks. They are simple but effective. And keeping it simple makes them easier to implement. Try them out, you might be surprised how much they help bring you peace, calm and balance.